Meditation & Minfulness

Change, Attachment, and Impermanence

August 7, 2016

I am going through a big change.

I am leaving beautiful Vermont and moving to Germany for my job. The chance to live and work abroad has been a significant goal of mine for a very long time. I want to connect and set up roots in a completely different community. I want to figure out how to be successful in my career under completely different circumstances. I’ve been itching to get outside my comfort zone.

And I did it. I made this happen. I am going to work for a company that I am ecstatic about, doing a job that I have experience and success in. And I am definitely outside of my comfort zone.

Even though I know I want this, and this decision feels so right, it’s still hard.

I am leaving a pretty good life.
I am leaving everything I know.
I sold my lovely little home.
I left a job I was successful at.
I said goodbye to my family & friends.
I said goodbye to my family & friends.
I said goodbye to my family & friends.

Needless to say, the concept of impermanence and attachment have been on my mind as of late.

The notion that our attachment to life’s impermanency causes suffering is a foundational concept in Buddhism. The stronger the attachment, the greater the suffering.

That being said, there is good news.

Buddhism also teaches us that suffering and attachment have a causal and direct relationship. So the less we attach to life’s impermanency, the less we suffer.

But let’s be honest – we can’t rid ourselves of all attachments. Nor should we.

Our human connections, the pursuit of our passions and our love for life itself are potential sources of suffering but they are also the substance of humanity and the ingredients for a fulfilling life.

And this is where I am. I can either attach & suffer or accept that the suffering I have felt from all the goodbyes is actually beautiful. It’s beautiful because it means I have built a life filled with people I care about.

The sorrow I am feeling doesn’t have to consume me or govern my actions and this is what meditation has helped me learn. 

Life is ever-changing. It’s a continuous flow of moments weaved together creating a wealth of experiences. The potential in these experiences arises from their dynamic nature; day-to-day, minute-to-minute and breath-to-breath.

If I accept and go with the current of life, I can weather the suffering that comes along with desires and attachments. I can pause and realize that I am the same person through the ups and the downs, the good and the bad, the easy and the hard.

And this is what I want. I want to go into this next chapter with all of my heart, all of my mind, and all of my soul.

Meditate & be well.

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